“Dating is done. Seriously, who goes on dates anymore? It’s all about hooking up, getting a number, grabbing a drink and getting down.”
“What happened to paying for dinners and drinks? What happened to pulling out chairs and holding doors? What happened to walking on the outside, closest to the street and all that sh*t?”
“The real problem here is that women, for one reason or another, have become complacent and allowed men to get away with adhering to the bare minimum. We no longer have to put in the effort of flowers, chocolates, dates, etc., and if we do, we come off as stage-five clingers.”
(The following is a comment I left on Facebook in response to a friend’s posting of this article.)
Sorry man, but that article’s pretty shitty.
This author is succumbing to such a confirmation bias that it’s hard to even believe it’s honest. Millions of people go on dates, have intimate conversations and experiences together, foster meaningful romantic relationships for long periods of time, and, yes, have sex. Casual, committed, kinky, cuddly.
Who cares if some people want sex now and not a relationship? Who cares if some people want to have more than one partner? Who cares if some people aren’t interested in romantic relationships at all right now?
Society’s not going to collapse, and I trust people to fulfill their happiness according to their wants and desires.
Let’s NOT bring back chivalry. Let’s just all be kind individuals to one another without the pretense of upholding a patriarchal attitude towards gender roles. Holding open doors can be a courtesy, for sure. Doing it only for women is patronizing. Offering to pay for dinner is nice. Doing it because you’re a man on a date with a woman is sexist.
“Why have we strayed away from what has been established as the norm?”
Because we are freeing ourselves of the shackles and stigma society has previously placed on sexuality and different expressions of romance and intimacy. If we stuck with the norm, we’d all still be homophobes and racists.
This author is writing from a narrow-minded, sexist perspective that deserves to die off. He plays up the differences between men and women that are simply products of a patriarchal society that should be abolished. Not to mention his complete lack of any consideration for non-heterosexual people.